Emotional Wellbeing


Mandy Kloppers

You CAN do it



Self doubt plagues us all and it can keep us from achieving great things. It whittles away our opportunities and removes our courage. Thing is – if you BELIEVE that you can do something, you have already won half the battle. Too many of us live fearful lives and don’t take up the challenge.

I have been in a 6 year legal battle with my son’s father to get him to pay his fair share of child maintenance. To his credit, he has always paid something but it was a fraction of what he should have been contributing. I knew this and decided to fight.

There were dark times and days when money was so tight that I worried that my son and I would end up homeless but I can happily say that last week I won an important court battle. The judges agreed with me completely and my ex has been ordered to pay the maximum amount possible in terms of child maintenance.

This means he will owe quite a lot in arrears and I can finally start to breathe a little easier. There were many times when I felt like giving up, when I felt let down by the justice system and seethed with anger at what my ex was doing. Somehow though, the need to fairness kept me going and it has paid off. I also wanted to do this for my son.

I want to say to all of you out there who are reading this and who feel lost and dejected – you CAN do it. One good thing about change is that it is constant – if you feel down in the dumps, it will pass.Keep the faith and never give up on yourself and the fight for what is right.

Mandy X