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Mandy Kloppers

What To Do When You Miss Your Ex

Mourning after a breakup is normal. You still miss your ex, and you wanted to return to the moments where you felt the happiest in your life. But one thing that you need to remember is that you have to first make an effort to recover from the breakup even if you still consider getting back your ex. Read more ways on how you can move on in this link here: https://www.wikihow.com/Move-On.

You might feel the pain for some weeks or even years to come, but one thing is for sure, moving on does not happen overnight. Your ex has been a part of your life, and you may have invested a lot of time and effort into them, thinking that they will be the ones you will grow old with.

Another thing is that it’s perfectly natural to want to text, call, or chat them even after you have already called it quits. After all, you previously developed the habit of sharing your day with them, and it will be very painful if you wake up one morning and realized that they are not there anymore beside you.

But know that one day, you will see that everything’s going to be okay. You will be healed, and you will move on with life. Here are some of the things that you can do to speed up your healing process, especially if you have just broken up with your ex.

Ways to Heal

  1. Cry whenever you want

The happy memories you have with another person will stay with you for a long time unless you will develop amnesia. It’s okay if you remember them from time to time because they might still be haunting you in your dreams or in your thoughts. You can cry if you feel lonely while remembering them, but you should never repress your feelings.

Let all your tears flow freely whenever you are reminiscing your past. After you decided that wallowing in pain is more than enough for your emotional, mental, and physical health, you will get tired of crying, and you will not hurt with the same intensity the next time.

  1. You need to Move On

There are times when emotions outweigh logical thinking. This usually happens when you get drunk, and you send all sorts of messages to your ex. You may even develop false thinking that remaining in a hellish relationship with your first love is better than being in pain and alone. If this ever happens to you, you may need a good slap into reality.

One of the things you can do to move on is to get help from your support system. You can check out the post right here to know more about how you can do this. You can quickly move on if you have people around you whom you can talk to, and you can benefit better with a shoulder that you can lean on in times of loneliness.

You can also list the reasons why the relationship ended and check if there are more painful moments than pleasurable ones. If possible, list down the benefits of breaking up and focus on yourself more. You can get a new career, develop a new hobby, or even travel to another country to steer yourself in another direction.

  1. You Need to Talk to Someone who can Understand You

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You should never keep painful feelings for yourself since if they become too much, they might explode. Even if you want to cry alone, you still need a support system that truly understands what you are going through. Your genuine supporter can be any of your family members, friends, counselors, and more. You need to make sure that when you talk to them, they will listen to you and not gossip about you.

For some people, it helps if they talk to another person that pretends to be their ex. They can send good morning messages to that person instead of being tempted to chat with their ex early in the day. They can also say all the words that were left unsaid because the other person has started to avoid the relationship altogether.

Talking to someone whom you can trust will lighten the burdens that you are carrying but others may not need a support system. You need to speak to someone who won’t gossip about you, especially to the other party. If you find someone that trustworthy, then consider yourself lucky.

  1. Do Other Productive Things

You can avoid thinking about your ex when you do other productive things. When they start to creep inside your mind, you should divert your focus and do something that can enrich your life. You can start baking cookies, studying, or cleaning your room to reroute your thoughts.

If you consistently keep yourself busy, you can forget your ex in no time. Use calendars and planners and fill them with activities. You should not have the time for idleness since this can leave you vulnerable. It also helps if you temporarily block your old flame on social media and delete their phone numbers so that you won’t be tempted to chat with them about the things that are happening in your life.

Breakups are very painful, but when you realize that you are perfectly fine without your ex, you will become stronger. You will even be surprised that you have an inner strength that can overcome hardships and obstacles. One day, you will wake up happy and realize that the pain is finally gone.