Emotional Wellbeing

Self Improvement

Mandy Kloppers

Self Belief – Five ways to increase it


Self-belief is all about feeling good enough. It’s the feeling that you can handle whatever life throws at you. A healthy appreciation of your skills, talents, and abilities. Without self-belief you are surrounded by invisible barriers that crush opportunities and limit your chances if success.

Here are ways to improve your self belief:

1) Don’t belittle yourself

Constant criticism will turn you into the person you are desperate not to be. Talk positively to yourself and you’ll start behaving in a way that reinforces that thought pattern. Focus on your strengths and ensure that your inner dialogue is supportive, not critical. Speak to yourself as you would someone you cared about.


2) Prize yourself


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Expect the best and tell yourself you deserve it. When you wear your ‘invisible crown’, you send out a different energy and it makes others sit up and take note. Carry yourself confidently – shoulders back, stand up straight and make eye contact. Adopting a wonder woman pose does wonders for your confidence. Small changes in your posture can have big results in your confidence.

3) Be aware of your beliefs about the world

What do you want to believe about you? The truth is that you can believe anything you want. Whatever you choose to believe will be true for you. You accumulate evidence to prove/justify your beliefs whether they are negative or positive…why would you allow negative thoughts to linger then? What purpose do they serve? Confirmation bias happens when we only look for evidence that supports our thinking and don’t keep a balanced view. For example – if you think you aren’t good enough, you brain will focus on all the reasons why you aren’t ‘good enough’. Focus on the reasons why you ARE good enough – you will find plenty there too if you shift your thinking.

4) Take responsibility

Don’t blame others/circumstances for your position in life. You are responsible through past choices and decisions for where you are in your life right now. Don’t see yourself as a powerless victim at the mercy of others. Take back your power and make the decision to change whatever you don’t like or at least take positive steps towards improving the situation. Be self-reliant.

5) Improve Happiness

Do this by laughing every day. Think about the things in your life that you are grateful for. The happier your outlook the more you tune in to the good things out there. Possibilities will present themselves that won’t be there if you allow cynicism and bitterness to swallow you up. Don’t take yourself or life too seriously.

It’s impossible to think 100% good thoughts about ourselves 100% of the time but being aware of your thinking and outlook can go a long way to improving the quality of your life.

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