Emotional Wellbeing

Mandy Kloppers

Nothing to prove


I have worked with some important celebrities in the past and I also know people who work closely with A-listers. One thing that is interesting is that these top celebrities are more often than not, very easy going, tolerant and flexible. They are far more laid back than those celebs that are less well known and still trying to prove themselves and make a name for themselves. You would’ve thought A-listers would be the most difficult, but this is often not the case.

The creme de la creme, those who have ‘made it’ in the world – whether that is by being famous or very wealthy (or both),  tend to be easier to deal with because they have nothing to prove. They feel at ease with themselves. Some very wise individuals feel this without the wealth or fame and this is something we should all aim for.

People who are still struggling to find their identity and who don’t feel comfortable in their own skin, by contrast, tend to be quite demanding and far more tircky to work with. This is because they do not feel at ease within themselves and tend to have the attitude of “don’t you know who I am?”. They are often more obnoxious than those who have more right to be this but, but aren’t. If other people aren’t deferring to them and treating them as if they are special, this triggers their insecurities that they are not good enough (rich enough/ famous enough etc) and they react in a spoilt way.

From a psychological standpoint, I find this very interesting. If we could all get to a place in our minds where we accept and like ourselves, we could also feel at ease and tolerant with no need to prove ourselves. It is often the norms of society that condition us to feel we have to achieve in order to feel we are worthy. I find this very sad, and also inaccurate. As long as you like who you are, live according to good values and like yourself as you are, you will tend to be happier and calmer for it. No one should feel the need to have to prove themselves. This yrge comes from a deep seated insecurity. Be aware of what your thoughts are telling you and look for all your strengths and positive traits. Find all those reasons for why you are good enough as you.

Work on seeing yourself as good enough, you do not need to prove yourself to anyone else except yourself.

Mandy X




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