Mental Health

Mandy Kloppers

Insecurities: Why You Can’t Ignore Them

Insecurities can be an overwhelming and daunting force to deal with. They can control our thoughts, our actions, and our emotions. We often try to ignore them or push them away, but that’s not the right approach. 


Almost half of Britons are plagued by insecurities about their bodies. For adults under 60, body image can remain an issue. More often than not, insecurities have a long-lasting and complex influence on our lives. Affecting not only the way a person thinks about themselves but also their behaviour. As such, struggling with a negative body image could interfere not only with your self-esteem but with any aspect of your life, including your career and relationships. 


Body image is obviously only one type of insecurity. Insecurities can take a variety of forms, leading to a loss in confidence and increasing anxiety and uncertainty. You may feel insecure about relationships, socialising, or even your professional skills.  


In this blog post, we will explore why you can’t ignore your insecurities and how to confront them effectively.


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Insecurities dictate your thoughts

Insecurities can have a powerful impact on your life, affecting everything from your mental health to your daily decisions. Most significantly, they can dictate your thoughts, leaving you with feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, and anxiety. These negative thoughts can be overwhelming and make it difficult to move forward in life. When left unchecked, insecurities can lead to a cycle of destructive behaviour, perpetuating negative feelings that make it difficult to find joy and satisfaction in life. 


It is important to recognise that insecurities do not define who you are or limit your potential. By understanding the root causes of your insecurities and taking the necessary steps to combat them, you can move beyond negative thought patterns and become more confident in yourself and your abilities.


They have a real underlying cause

Insecurities can often have a deep-rooted cause, and understanding it can help better cope with them. 


Some of the underlying causes of insecurities may include the following elements:

  • Having critical parents who show little emotional support while growing up can lead to insecurities. In families where parents compare their child against others or bully them about their passions, academic results or even physical appearance, insecurities are prone to arise. 
  • Negative past experiences, such as experiencing failure or rejection, can also trigger insecurities. 
  • Certain mental health conditions, such as anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder, are frequently linked to insecurities. 
  • If you have perceived weaknesses, whether it is skills or physical appearance, you could develop insecurities as a result.


Paying attention to your insecurities

Understanding the underlying cause of your insecurities can make them more manageable. By taking the time to identify the root cause of your insecurities, you can work to address them in healthy ways and build up your self-confidence.


A variety of methods can help when it comes to healing from insecurities. But once you’ve identified the initial cause, you can take the matter into your own hands. This could mean seeking the services of a cosmetic dentist if the way you feel about your smile affects your life or reaching out to a therapist to talk about childhood trauma. 


In conclusion, ignoring your insecurities doesn’t make them disappear. On the contrary, the more you try to ignore them, the more control they can have over your life. Instead, being mindful of the thoughts and behaviours they trigger and where they come from could help your healing journey.