Do you compare yourself unfavourably to others? Have you got a tendency to think that everyone is smarter and more successful? Why is this so? How do you decide what the bench mark is for some one being superior to you on some level?
We all engage in destructive comparisons and is it one of the quickest, most unrealistic ways to feel bad about ourselves.
What we do though is compare our “behind the scenes footage” (as in all our bad bits that we are acutely aware of) to other people’s “highlight reels” (the outer image that we see of others – the well put together image that others project – more often than not this is far from the reality of their real lives).
It’s so easy to assume that others have perfect easy lives and that our own are chaotic and do not measure up. Be sensible! This is nonsense. In fact, most of have many similar issues to face in life and often live with parallel problems.
If only we reached out to others rather than withdrawing and revealing even less. We’re all so worried that if we are just ourselves that somehow people will judge us or see us as inferior. So we all put on an act and pretend life is great and wonderful when inside we feel like misfits.
Imagine all these inner misfits walking around, feeling the same yet not showing any part of our true inner reality. How sad. We could all be connecting, letting our guards down and losing many insecurities in the process.
Being yourself and being open can actually draw people to you – they relate more and see you as a human rather than a perfect being that has no problems.
No one likes a person who acts as if life is perfect in every way because that is just not possible all of the time.
Be real and see the insecurities disappear.
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