Emotional Wellbeing




Mandy Kloppers

Focus externally for a better world

Me! Me! Me! We are egocentric creatures and most of our lives are spent focusing on ourselves – getting others to see things our way, persuading people to like us and pay us attention. A lot of our focus goes into ourselves. We want things, we want to get ahead and very few of us are truly altruistic. When you focus externally, you can achieve two very important things:

You get out of your own head

Being too wrapped up in ourselves can be dangerous. Too much time turns our mind into a bully – it tells us we aren’t good enough, we aren’t doing enough, things will never get better or any other combination of fearful thoughts that reduce our happiness and make us afraid of life. Focusing externally reduces the agonising self-scrutiny that readily occurs if we aren’t managing our ‘mental diet’ well.

You can help others and create a kinder world

Spending time with a sense of purpose in life does wonders for your mental health. In fact, I would say it is essential to give back in some way. Donate to a charity, volunteer to help others who need it or just be kind and considerate even if you don’t receive appreciation. One of my pet hates is when I let someone go in front of me in the traffic and they don’t say thank you. There will always be selfish, self absorbed people but don’t let that stop you from projecting positive and kind energy around you. This is still good for your psychological wellbeing.

I beleieve that we are all here for a reason and that each and every one of us has a responsibility to be the kindest version of ourselves. Achieving this may be difficult and in many ways it is something I continually work towards (I would like to give up meat completely)


Ideas for focusing externally

Take in the world around you

Look for lack – is there anything you can do to help considering your knowledge and experience.

Observe without judgement.

Take in info without always putting your ‘stamp’ on it. A gentle acceptance while observing can teach you so much about yourself and the world around you.

Mandy X


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