1) You have to decide what you want first of all.
So many people do not know what they really want. In other words, they are not at all clear about what they want in life. When setting your goals, you need to make a decision about what you want, and determine when you want to have achieved that goal. In other words, you must create a deadline for what you currently want. Get clear about what you want.
2)Have a good plan of attack.
Ask yourself: What do I know about this?
What information do I have?
What information do I need?
Where can I get it?
What skills do I need to master?
What other resources should I use?
Is this the best way to do it, or is there some other way?
3)Start small, but keep going
Goals don’t necessarily have to be big ones. When you set your goal too high, you might find it too overwhelming and time-consuming and just give up. Or you might make another one, just as big and keep switching ideas. It’s akin to quitting cold turkey when there are setbacks.
4)Set goals in small increments, complete with time, dates, amount, some details.
If you tell yourself, I’m going to be an opera singer and then sit around and wait for it to suddenly happen, you could be waiting all your life. Start with singing lessons for a month, and then a year. Expose yourself to opera music. You can then progress to more singing lessons year after year. By breaking down your goals in smaller, workable units, you are more likely to make them come true. Remember, even the great ones had to start somewhere.
5)Be positive when stating your goals.
Instead of saying, I am not going to miss my exercise routine today, say I’m really busy, so I’ll probably just make time for 20 minutes on the treadmill. Stating your goal positively will help you view it as a good thing to do, and not as a byproduct of what you had to avoid.
6)Spread out your goals.
So maybe we do have certain general goals that apply to all areas of our lives like, I want to be successful or I want to be rich but those would seem as far away as the Niagara Falls viewed from Hawaii. Instead, try making tiny goals for different aspects of your life, one or two for each, even more if you like. These areas are: family and home, career, social, physical, mental and spiritual. If you say, I want to be a successful dad, then try to make goals towards the development of your family life while still keeping an eye out for ways to improve your career and other areas of your life. The more specific the better.
7)Don’t underestimate yourself.
It’s tempting to sometimes just slack off, or let yourself off too easy. If you want to write the definitive American novel, then don’t try to churn out just a page or two a day when you know you are more than capable of writing five pages, even ten. The fear of failure is sometimes to blame for setting our goals too low. How often have you said, I don’t really want to volunteer for that project because I might screw it up. And then my colleagues will make fun of me.
8)Remember that some fears are unfounded.
How do you know you’ll actually ruin it? And how do you know for sure your coworkers will laugh at your effort? If you try to reason with your fears, more often than not, you’ll realize that there really is no reason for you to be reluctant and that in fact, you can do it. See failure as a learning curve and be proud that you keep trying. Never let fear get the better of you.