This post is for those of you who are struggling right now. Don’t give up. Remember that even though you feel low and have had enough, this horrible feeling won’t last. It’s just how you feel right now.
It’s completely normal to feel down and overwhelmed at times. We can all feel vulnerable, scared and uncertain about the future. Know that you are not alone and that everyone has times when they feel they can’t cope.
We’re all in this ‘soup’ together and experience many of the same things – failure, rejection, humiliation and so on.
Try not to let life get you down. If at all possible, try to see the funny side of life. Don’t allow your fearful thoughts to get the better of you. The anticipatory thoughts are often far worse than any event that you could think up.
We often cope far better than we think we will.
How to manage your mental health
Look after yourself. Protect yourself and be kind to yourself. There are enough people in this world who will give you a hard time without you giving yourself a tough time too.
Try to stay in the present moment and stop worrying about the past or the future. Your only power is being in the moment and being present.
Accept what you can’t change and focus on what you can change – far more empowering.
Scientists have discovered that feelings of gratitude can actually change your brain. Feeling gratitude can also be a great tool for overcoming depression and anxiety. Furthermore, scientists have discovered that the heart sends signals to the brain.
Many of us are always looking toward external factors to experience joy and happiness, when really it’s all related to internal work.
There are many studies showing that people who count their blessings tend to be far happier and experience less depression. For one study, researchers recruited people with mental health difficulties, including people suffering from anxiety and depression. The study involved nearly 300 adults who were randomly divided into three groups. This study came from the University of California, Berkeley.
All groups received counselling services, but the first group was also instructed to write one letter of gratitude to another person every week for three weeks, whereas the second group was asked to write about their deepest thoughts and feelings about negative experiences. The third group did not do any writing activity.
What did they find? Compared to the participants who wrote about negative experiences or only received counselling, those who wrote gratitude letters reported significantly better mental health for up to 12 weeks after the writing exercise ended.
Explore your thinking
It’s widely accepted that your thoughts lead to emotions and this affects your behaviour. Your mental diet will directly influence your quality of life.
Imagine you have been rejected by someone you quite liked. You start thinking that you aren’t good enough and that perhaps you will never find someone to love and who will love you back.
Ask yourself this:
Is this thinking helpful?
What would I tell a friend who was thinking in this way?
Where is the evidence that I am not good enough? You may think that the rejection is proof but it isn’t – that is just one example – it’s not a blanket fact that you aren’t good enough.
Is there another way to look at this? YES – there is always another way to look at something. There’s no accounting for taste and just because one person might have rejected you, it doesn’t mean you aren’t an incredible catch…just not for that person. Their loss.
Sometimes we are rejected due to the inadequacies of someone else.
Don’t give up. You can take some time out and regenerate, build back up…but don’t give up.