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Mandy Kloppers

Coping after a breakup

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Coping after a breakup

Surviving the heartache of a breakup is tough. It can be one the most gruelling emotional experiences you can go through. Coping after a breakup is possible though, here are small little things you can do to inch yourself towards happier days…

One important question to ask yourself

Coping after a breakup involves healing and time. You must also ask yourself this question,

“What needs of mine were not met?”. Looking back at the relationship, what needs of yours were not fulfilled? Once a relationship is over, focusing on what wasn’t good can help propel your forward.

Make a list

No one is perfect and there must have been things that your ex did that you didn’t like. Make a list of all their annoying habits and things you didn’t like about the relationship and read it when you start to reminisce about the relationship’s positive attributes.

Look forward and be philosophical

Believe that everything happens for a reason and that there is a higher purpose for this breakup. If your partner split up with you, it is much better to be with someone who wants to be with you. They are out there. It may not seem like it at the moment when you feel so down in the dumps but there is someone out there who is better suited to you. If you initiated the break up, there must have been a valid reason – remind yourself of this.

It takes time to fully heal from a breakup. Be kind and compassionate towards yourself and don’t listen to the self critical thoughts (I am worthless, no one will ever love me) and the negative thinking. You will get to a better place. In the meantime, take it one day at a time and know that each day you will be closer to feeling back to your normal self again.

Mandy X