Emotional Wellbeing

Mandy Kloppers

Are you being breadcrumbed?

Here are a few new terms for you daters out there…

Breadcrumbing, defined by Urban Dictionary as “the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages (ie “breadcrumbs”) in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort,” equates to leading someone on.

Breadcrumbing – someone showing you just enough interest (throwing you ‘breadcrumbs’) to keep you interested while they keep their options open.

Usually, it’s the flattery they like – it’s great when someone is keen on, it’s good for the ego. Breadcrumbing is pretty selfish and it plays games with other people’s emotions.


Because of the seminal role that technology plays in the modern dating scene, breadcrumbing can be especially infuriating if you’re in search of a genuine connection. Breadcrumbers waste your time and introduce a sense of falsehood into a rapport that you may have conceived as real. Emotional manipulation is not OK though, so the next time your cutie-pie Bumble match cancels coffee three times in a row but “loves your new profile pic!” try to move on to someone worth your time. I’d rather have my daily carbs in the form of a bagel, anyways.

Another interesting dating term:

Benching. Otherwise known as bread-crumbing, this is when someone you’ve beendating stops agreeing to meet in person, but continues to contact you over message and social media. “These people are essentially keeping you on the bench while they play out their other options.

Mandy X