Am I a narcissist?

That’s because, in my experience, people who actually have Narcissistic Personality Disorder or a narcissistic style rarely wonder or worry about their narcissism.

Narcissists generally:

• Have little interest in introspection
• Wouldn’t want to know, or even care, that they might be narcissistic
• Would justify any narcissistic behavior they exhibit

If you are concerned, read the following 24 statements derived from my clinical and research experience to be characteristics of people with narcissism. Identify any statements that would describe you most or all of the time:

1. I expect special treatment in life
2. I become furious if I feel slighted or not respected
3. I view most people as “losers”
4. I don’t believe in apologizing or accepting blame
5. I’ll do anything to avoid feeling flawed or illegitimate
6. I lack empathy for others
7. I must have attention and admiration
8. I’m quick to replace partners when a relationship ends
9. I view the world in right-or-wrong, black-and-white terms
10. I find fault in almost everyone I know
11. I’d rather talk than listen
12. I see no problem with manipulating others if it gets me what I want
13. I am quick to hold grudges and slow to forgive
14. I look down on most people
15. I am almost never wrong
16. I am jealous of others’ good fortune
17. I get enraged or withdraw when I don’t get what I want
18. I seek to punish others who disappoint me
19. I have few really close friends
20. I take advantage of others to reach my goals
21. I bully others to get what I want
22. I demand absolute loyalty from those close to me
23. Most rules don’t apply to me
24. Most people would want to be like me

While many people might say that a handful of these statements could describe their thoughts or behaviors from time to time, unless you answered yes to at least a third of these questions (eight out of 24), you are unlikely to have strong narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder.

On the other hand, if you answered yes to eight or more of these questions, you may well have unhealthy narcissistic tendencies. The more you answered affirmatively, the more pronounced that narcissism may be. If this concerns you, you may wish to seek a qualified therapist for a consultation.

Author: Mandy Kloppers

Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.