Emotional Wellbeing

Mandy Kloppers

Abundant thinking in preference of limited thinking


You probably don’t even realise that you are doing it but most people tend to think in one style or the other. Abundant thinking in preference of limited thinking is essential if you want to make the most out of your life. Do you want to achieve your full potential? If so, it’s time to think abundantly and to stop limiting yourself by using a limited thinking style. Think big and see opportunities where before you may have dismissed possibilities. Here’s how:

Be aware of your thinking style

Abundant thinking: Do you see the world as abundant with many things to offer or do you feel there are blocks and barriers to what you want to achieve? Cautious anxious types tend to be limited-type thinkers. Optimists tend to see abundance. If you find yourself limiting yourself with statements such as, “I am too old/stupid/etc for that”; “I am not competent enough to apply for that job” or “I could never do something like that”, start to ask yourself why you limit yourself. Have you tried? Sometimes our fear of failure keeps us paralysed and we avoid trying. Guess what happens when we don’t try? Yep – the limited thinking stays in place unchallenged.

Approach instead of avoid

If you tend to have a limited style of thinking, start to be more aware of the things you don’t go for. Do less avoiding and more attempting. So what if it doesn’t work out? You will still learn from the experience and find out that you have picked up new skills along the way. Every knowledgeable person out there once knew nothing. We all have to start something. Open up your ideas about the possibilities. See adventure where others see fear and turn away. Stop being afraid of life. See failure as never trying instead of trying and failing regularly. If you keep going despite failing and get back up – you’re brilliant! Give yourself a pat on the back.

Don’t discount anything until you have really looked into it

There is a saying that “you need to be on the field in order to score a goal”. With limited thinking you don’t even get on to the field. At least with abundant thinking you can be on the field learning and being exposed to new experiences. That’s what life is all about.

Some people get into the habit of automatically dismissing anything that is slightly out of their comfort zone or out of reach of what they have been told they can achieve. They often accept this without question. Well, I am saying it’s time to start questioning these limits you place upon yourself. Yes, some of them may be very valid. Perhaps working with wild animals isn’t a good idea of you have a bad allergy to them. Let’s be practical. What I am referring to is where people automatically think something is out of their reach due to their habitual limited thinking-style habit.

Think big

Expect good things. Ask yourself “Why not?”. Positive expectancy can get ground out of you when life has thrown you a few curve balls but don’t let it make you feel disillusioned, you can still choose to be hopeful and to keep pushing forward. You will find that more comes to you when you think big.

There is a psychological term known as “confirmation bias”. We tend to look for evidence in the world to confirm our thinking. So, if we are abundant thinkers, we will tend to see opportunities where others don’t. If we are limited thinkers we may be more tuned in to failure and focus more on evidence that confirms why we should think small and stay in our comfort zones.

Thoughts are powerful

We all have the power to choose what we want to think about ourselves and the world around us. We can choose to focus on limitation and make that our reality or we can choose to focus on abundance and live according to rules of abundance to help us see opportunities, to help us to be brave.

Being an abundant thinker doesn’t mean that you will never fail or that from now on there will be unlimited opportunities falling into your lap. What it does mean is that you will try more and end up, according to the law of averages, succeeding more. Where before you may have had limited thinking (eg. He will never go on a date with me, so I won’t even ask), you might ask and get a favourable response. When we change our behaviour, the outcomes help to shift our thinking too.

If the person you asked out said yes when you had always thought it would be a no, it would automatically shift your thinking to a more abundant style. It’s a system that grows as you grow and become more adventurous.

Try more, ask more and when it doesn’t go your way don’t criticise yourself, congratulate yourself for thinking abundantly, giving it a go (you’ll be in the top 10% of the population) and not being afraid to explore this thing we call life.

Mandy X